The idea of naming this series “The Love Bug” came from a specie of march flies called “lovebugs”. These insects are actually interesting as they have interesting and unique characteristics different from other insects. For example, they remain coupled in flight during and after mating for up to several days! Mating usually takes place almost immediately after the females emerge; it’s like ***JAMB RUSH (lol). This is because the adult females live for only 3 to 4 days while the males live slightly longer. Therefore, it prompts them to stick with each other throughout the mating process.
Another interesting characteristic about lovebugs is that they look like falling black snow as they move in their thousands. As a result, they get hit by cars and can get squashed on surfaces. Once they hit surfaces and their bodies stay there for over an hour, their remains become very hard to remove. This is because they emit acidity that corrodes and destroys any surfaces it lands on. So as you try to scrape them off, it peels off the paints and even causes dents on the car or surfaces it was on; and in very bad cases, can clog the radiator passages of a car or any other sensitive part of a machinery if they get in there. Even the windshields are not excluded! Just imagine the damage…
This “love relationship” between lovebugs is somewhat uncanny to the love relationship among most humans: there is always this rush with ladies to get into a relationship at a certain time; the men seem to have a longer ‘relationship cycle’ than women; relationships that hit the rocks mostly turn toxic; crashed relationships usually affect almost everybody directly or indirectly, and so on.
But should this be so?
Is that how every relationship is meant to be?
When you decide to pursue a relationship, are you ‘doing’ it God’s way or your own way?
Since we live in a world where the relationship experiences of others (mostly negative) are the predominant voices that has set a false relationship standard, it is time to go back to the basics. Scriptures tell us that the way of a man with a maid is something baffling (Proverbs 30:18-19). It is never straight forward neither is it black and white. There are always grey areas that pop up which either shakes whatever relationship mindset/ideology you had developed or helps you build new ones. Therefore, you would need to constantly learn, unlearn and relearn based on God’s word.
I will be taking us through God’s word from the very beginning of creation so that you can see what God had in mind regarding relationships (the romantic kind leading to marriage). You would also see what is responsible for the relationship chaos we have around us today and what you can do to be different. It is very possible not to be part of the negative statistic. This depends on your choice and your level of yieldedness to the Holy Spirit.
Join me on Wednesday as we look at the topic “Why Male and Female?” from God’s perspective.
But before you go, what else do you think is an interesting comparison between lovebugs and the romantic relationship between a man and a woman? (You’re free to do your own research on them).
(NB ***JAMB RUSH is a term referring to the way new undergraduate students are bombarded by guys to start a relationship. Usually, the intent of most of these guys is simply to have sex with the girls and dump them afterwards. They do this by playing on the naivety of the new girl.)
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I never really thought the word love but is real but fictional. That part is quite enlightening if I might say so. Thank you.
The ideology of a relationship keeps evolving each day with new generations, so it’s important we keep the light and the halo on God’s standard.
Looking forward to the series.
Thanks so much sis. Very true. We learn everyday…